Help! My Son Won’t Bathe or Move from the Sofa

Dear Agony Aunt,

I am writing to seek your advice on a concerning issue I am facing with my teenage son. Ever since he started secondary school, he has developed a habit of coming home, plopping down on the sofa, and spending hours mindlessly scrolling through TikTok.

What worries me the most is that he doesn’t even bother to take a shower or change out of his school clothes. It’s as if he’s completely disconnected from the world around him.

I’ve tried talking to him about the importance of personal hygiene and limiting screen time, but it’s like talking to a brick wall. I’m at my wit’s end and I don’t know how to help him break out of this unhealthy routine.

Please, can you offer me some advice on how to approach this situation and guide my son back on the right track?

Sincerely,
Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

It’s understandable that you’re feeling worried about your son’s behavior, and it’s commendable that you’re seeking guidance on how to address this issue. The teenage years can be a challenging time for both parents and adolescents, and it’s not uncommon for teenagers to exhibit changes in their habits and attitudes. However, it’s important to address the situation before it becomes a long-term pattern.

First and foremost, I would recommend having an open and honest conversation with your son about your concerns. Approach the topic with empathy and understanding, rather than criticism. Express your worries about his well-being and the impact his current routine may have on his physical and mental health. Encourage him to share any underlying reasons for his behavior and assure him that you are there to support him.

Additionally, setting clear boundaries and expectations regarding screen time and personal hygiene is crucial. Establish a reasonable schedule for technology use and encourage him to engage in other activities that promote physical movement and social interaction. Perhaps suggest alternative hobbies or interests that he can explore outside of TikTok.

It may also be beneficial to involve other trusted adults in his life, such as a school counselor or family members, to provide additional support and guidance.

Remember, change takes time, and it’s important to approach the situation with patience and understanding. Your son may be facing challenges that he’s struggling to articulate, and your support and guidance can make a significant difference in helping him navigate this phase.

Best of luck, and I hope these suggestions help you and your son find a positive way forward.

Warm regards,
Agony Aunt