Advice: My Daughter is Pulling Away and No Longer Close to Me

Dear Agony Aunt,

I am a mother to a wonderful teenage daughter, and we used to be incredibly close. We would spend hours chatting, shopping, and just enjoying each other’s company.

However, lately, she seems to prefer spending time with her friends and hardly confides in me anymore. I miss our close bond and I’m worried that she’s pulling away from me. I want to give her space to grow and develop her independence, but I also want to maintain a strong and open relationship with her.

What can I do to bridge this gap and reconnect with my daughter?

Sincerely,
Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

It’s understandable that you’re feeling a bit lost as your daughter begins to assert her independence. The teenage years can be a turbulent time, and it’s common for young people to pull away from their parents as they seek to establish their own identities. However, this doesn’t mean that your bond with your daughter is lost forever.

First and foremost, it’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your daughter. Let her know that you miss the closeness you once shared and that you’re willing to give her the space she needs while still being there for her. Avoid being too pushy or demanding, as this could push her further away. Instead, try to create opportunities for quality time together, whether it’s through shared activities or simply setting aside time to talk.

It’s also crucial to show an interest in your daughter’s life outside of your relationship. Take an interest in her friends, hobbies, and passions. By demonstrating that you respect her growing independence and value her as an individual, you can help rebuild the trust and connection that may have been strained.

Remember, the transition from childhood to adolescence can be challenging for both parents and children. Be patient, understanding, and open to change, and with time, you may find that your daughter begins to confide in you once again.

Best of luck,
Agony Aunt