Advice Needed! Caught My Son Putting On Makeup After School
Dear Agony Aunt,
I am writing to seek your advice on a matter that has been weighing heavily on my mind. My son recently started secondary school, and I have noticed some concerning behavior. I was about to go and tidy his room and chanced upon him putting on makeup.
I was taken aback and didn’t know how to react. I don’t understand why he would do such a thing, and I’m worried about how this might affect him at school. I feel uncomfortable approaching him to discuss this, but I can’t shake off my concerns.
How should I handle this situation? I want to support my son, but I’m struggling to comprehend his choices.
Sincerely,
Concerned Mother
Dear Concerned Mother,
It’s completely understandable that you are feeling perplexed and uncertain about how to approach this situation with your son. Adolescence is a time of self-exploration and discovery, and it’s natural for children to start experimenting with their identity and self-expression. It’s important to remember that your son is navigating through a phase of life where he is trying to understand and define himself. It’s crucial to offer him a safe and understanding environment where he feels supported.
I encourage you to initiate a conversation with your son in a non-judgmental and empathetic manner. Express your love and concern for him and let him know that you are there to listen and understand. Ask open-ended questions and genuinely try to comprehend his perspective. By approaching the discussion with an open mind, you may gain insight into his motivations.
It’s also beneficial to note that there are many resources and support groups available for parents in similar situations, and connecting with them may provide you with valuable guidance and reassurance.
Most importantly, continue to show your son unconditional love and acceptance. Your support will be a source of strength and comfort for him as he navigates through this phase.
Remember, understanding and supporting your child’s choices is an essential part of nurturing a healthy parent-child relationship.
Best wishes,
Agony Aunt