Advice Needed: My Son Is Depressed And Has Issues Integrating Into His Daycare
Dear Agony Aunt,
I am writing to you because I am feeling very worried about my son. He recently started attending a daycare while I am at work, and it seems like he is having a hard time adjusting to the new environment.
I was informed that he is extremely depressed when he goes to daycare after his primary school ends. The daycare staff has told me that he seems withdrawn and has trouble interacting with the other children. I feel so guilty that I cannot be there for him during the day, but I have to work to support our family.
I am not sure what to do to help him feel more comfortable and happy at daycare. I want him to make friends and enjoy his time there, but I am at a loss for how to support him. I would really appreciate any advice or guidance you can offer.
Sincerely,
Concerned Mother
Dear Concerned Mother,
It’s clear that you care deeply for your son and want the best for him, so it’s understandable that you’re feeling worried about his adjustment to daycare. It’s not uncommon for children to experience some difficulty when transitioning to a new environment, especially when they are separated from their primary caregiver. Here are a few tips that may help your son feel more at ease:
1. Communicate with the daycare staff: Talk to the caregivers at the daycare about your son’s struggles. They may have insights or suggestions for how to help him integrate into the environment and feel more comfortable.
2. Establish a routine: Children thrive on routine, so try to create a consistent drop-off and pick-up routine. Knowing what to expect can help your son feel more secure.
3. Encourage social interactions: Help your son develop social skills by arranging playdates with other children outside of daycare. This can give him the opportunity to practice making friends in a more familiar setting.
4. Provide reassurance: Let your son know that you understand his feelings and that it’s okay to feel sad or nervous. Reassure him that you will always come back to pick him up at the end of the day.
It’s also important to remember that it may take some time for your son to fully adjust to the daycare environment, and that’s okay. Be patient and supportive, and continue to communicate with the daycare staff about his progress. With time and understanding, your son may gradually become more comfortable and start to enjoy his time at daycare.
I hope these suggestions are helpful, and I wish you and your son all the best as you navigate this transition.
Warm regards,
Agony Aunt