Concerned Mother: My daughter uses the phone even when she’s in the bathroom!
Dear Agony Aunt,
I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out because I’ve been increasingly worried about my daughter, who is just in primary school. While I understand that technology is a significant part of our lives now, I am troubled by how much she loves using her phone.
Lately, I’ve noticed that she takes her phone with her even when she goes to the bathroom. I can’t help but feel this is excessive and possibly unhealthy. I’m baffled by this generation’s fascination with their devices. I thought that at her age, children would be more interested in playing outside or reading books, but my daughter seems glued to her screen all the time.
I want to be supportive and understanding, but I also feel it’s essential to set boundaries. How can I express my concerns without alienating her or making her feel ashamed? I just want her to have a healthy balance in her life. I appreciate any advice you can provide.
Thank you for your help!
Warm regards,
Concerned Mom
Dear Concerned Mom,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns about your daughter. It’s completely understandable to feel worried about her phone use, especially in an age where technology is omnipresent in our lives. First, let me reassure you that you are not alone in feeling this way—many parents are navigating similar challenges.
It’s important to recognize that for many kids today, their phone is more than just a communication device; it’s a source of entertainment, social interaction, and information. This doesn’t mean it’s necessarily bad, but it does require guidance and boundaries, which you are rightly concerned about.
Here are a few steps you can take to help your daughter develop a healthier relationship with her phone:
1. Open Communication: Start a conversation with your daughter about her phone use. Ask her what she enjoys about it and how it makes her feel. This will give you insight into her perspective and help her feel heard.
2. Set Boundaries Together: Collaborate with her to establish some phone rules. For example, you might decide that the phone stays outside the bathroom or that certain times (like family meals or outdoor play) are phone-free zones.
3. Encourage Alternative Activities: Introduce her to fun activities that don’t involve screens—like arts and crafts, outdoor games, or reading together. When she has engaging alternatives, she might be less inclined to reach for her phone.
4. Model Healthy Use: Children often emulate their parents. Show her how you balance phone use with other activities in your own life, which can help set a positive example.
5. Educate on Balance: Discuss the importance of balance and moderation when it comes to technology. Help her understand that while phones can be great, it’s essential to enjoy a variety of experiences.
Remember to be patient with her as she adjusts to any new boundaries you set. It’s a learning process, and your love and support will go a long way in helping her develop a well-rounded approach to technology.
You’re doing a wonderful job as a concerned and caring mother. With open communication and clear guidelines, you can help your daughter find that balance and enjoy both her digital life and the world around her.
Best wishes,
Agony Aunt