Concerned Mother: Son says he is so lonely at school and doesn’t want to go school

Dear Agony Aunt,

I am writing to seek your advice regarding my 8-year-old son who seems to be struggling with loneliness at school. He has recently opened up to me about feeling miserable and having no friends in his primary school. This has been causing him so much distress that he doesn’t want to go to school anymore. As a mother, it breaks my heart to see my child in such pain.

I have tried talking to his teachers and the school counselor, but their reassurances haven’t seemed to alleviate his loneliness. I’m at a loss for what to do and how to help him through this difficult time. I want to support my son and help him make friends, but I’m not sure where to start.

I would greatly appreciate any advice or guidance you can offer to help my son overcome his loneliness and find happiness at school again.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Sincerely,
A Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

I am truly sorry to hear about the challenges your son is facing at school. It’s understandable that you’re deeply concerned about his well-being, and I commend you for seeking guidance to support him through this difficult time.

First and foremost, it’s important to continue providing a safe space for your son to express his feelings and concerns. Encourage open communication and let him know that his emotions are valid and that you are there to support him.

In addition to your support, consider reaching out to the school again to explore potential avenues for helping your son make friends. This could involve setting up playdates with classmates outside of school, joining extracurricular activities where he can meet new peers, or seeking additional support from the school counselor to address his social challenges.

Furthermore, consider engaging in activities with your son that promote social interaction and help build his confidence. This could include joining community groups, sports teams, or other social activities where he can interact with children his age in a more relaxed setting.

Lastly, keep an eye on his emotional well-being and consider seeking professional help if his feelings of loneliness persist. A child psychologist or therapist can provide specialized support to help him navigate through his emotions and develop coping strategies.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and there are resources and support systems available to help both you and your son through this difficult time.

Wishing you and your son strength and resilience as you navigate this challenge.

Warm regards,
Agony Aunt