Concerned Mother: Son stressed about going to school because of others’ anger management issues

Dear Agony Aunt,

I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out to you as a concerned mother about my son, who is in primary school. Lately, he has been expressing a lot of stress and anxiety about going to school.

He has mentioned that many of the teachers and even some of the students seem to struggle with managing their anger. He often hears shouting in the classroom and around the school, which makes him feel uncomfortable and scared. I worry that this environment is affecting his mental health and his love for learning.

I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he seems reluctant to share too much. I want to support him and help him feel safe and happy at school, but I’m not sure how to approach the situation. Should I speak to his teachers or the school administration? Or is there something else I can do to help him cope with this stress?

Thank you for your guidance.

Warm regards,
A Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your worries about your son. It’s clear that you care deeply for his well-being, and it’s completely understandable to feel concerned when your child is experiencing stress, especially in a place that should be nurturing and supportive.

First, it’s important to validate your son’s feelings. Let him know that it’s okay to feel anxious about the environment at school. Encourage him to express his emotions, whether through conversation, drawing, or writing. Sometimes, children find it easier to communicate their feelings in creative ways.

Regarding the shouting and anger management issues at school, I would recommend that you consider having a conversation with his teachers or the school administration. Approach them with your concerns in a constructive manner. You might say something like, “I’ve noticed that my son feels anxious about the atmosphere in the classroom. Is there a way we can work together to create a more positive environment?” This opens the door for dialogue without placing blame.

Additionally, you could explore coping strategies with your son. Techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness exercises, or even simple relaxation techniques can help him manage his anxiety. You might also want to consider speaking with a school counselor, who can provide additional support and resources.

Lastly, keep an eye on his overall well-being. If his stress continues or worsens, it may be beneficial to seek advice from a child psychologist who can provide tailored strategies to help him cope.

Remember, you are not alone in this. Many parents face similar challenges, and it’s commendable that you are seeking solutions for your son. With your support and the right resources, he can navigate this difficult time and find joy in learning again.

Take care, 
Agony Aunt