Need Advice: Son Ignores Me and Only Listens to His Friends and Internet

Dear Agony Aunt,

I am writing to you with a heavy heart as I am deeply concerned about my son who has recently started secondary school. It seems like overnight he has transformed from the sweet, obedient boy I knew into a teenager who no longer listens to my advice. He used to confide in me and value my opinion, but now it feels like he only cares about what his friends and the internet are saying.

I understand that adolescence is a time of change and exploration, but I worry that he is being influenced by the wrong things and making decisions that could have long-term consequences. How can I help him navigate this challenging time and guide him back to listening to his parents’ advice?

Sincerely,
Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

It is completely understandable that you are feeling distressed about the changes you are seeing in your son. The transition to secondary school can be a tumultuous time for many teenagers as they navigate new social dynamics and are exposed to a wider range of influences.

First and foremost, it’s important to remember that your son’s behavior is a normal part of his development. Adolescents often seek validation from their peers and the online world, and this can sometimes lead to a temporary disregard for parental advice. However, this does not mean that your influence is lost.

One approach you can take is to open up lines of communication with your son. Instead of trying to impose your advice on him, try to engage in open, non-judgmental conversations. Show genuine interest in his thoughts and feelings, and try to understand the reasons behind his newfound reliance on friends and the internet. By doing so, you can build a bridge of trust and create an environment where he feels comfortable sharing his experiences with you.

Additionally, consider finding opportunities to spend quality time together. Whether it’s engaging in a shared hobby, going for a walk, or simply having a meal together, these moments can provide valuable opportunities for bonding and for you to subtly impart your wisdom.

Lastly, it may be beneficial to set boundaries around his internet and social media usage. Educate him about the potential risks and misinformation that can be found online, and encourage him to critically evaluate the information he comes across.

Remember, the teenage years can be challenging, but with patience, understanding, and a willingness to adapt your approach, you can help guide your son through this transitional period.

Best wishes,
Agony Aunt