Worried Mother: Relying on parent’s group for most academic issues

Dear Agony Aunt,

I am feeling quite overwhelmed and worried about my son, who is in primary school.

Lately, I’ve noticed that he doesn’t seem to keep track of his school tests or assignments. I often find out about important dates and upcoming tests through a parents’ group chat, which feels quite frustrating. I wish my son would communicate these things to me, but he often seems oblivious to them.

I’m concerned that he might not be taking his studies seriously, and I don’t want him to fall behind. I’ve tried talking to him about the importance of keeping track of his schoolwork, but he just brushes it off. I’m not sure how to encourage him to take responsibility for his education without putting too much pressure on him.

Do you have any advice on how I can help him become more organized and aware of his school responsibilities? I want to support him, but I also feel like I’m in the dark about his academic life.

Thank you for your help!

Best regards,
Worried Mom

Dear Worried Mom,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns. It’s completely understandable to feel anxious when it comes to your child’s education, especially when communication seems to be lacking.

First and foremost, it’s important to recognize that many children at the primary school level are still developing their organizational skills. They often rely on their parents to help them navigate their academic responsibilities. However, it’s great that you’re proactive in wanting to support your son!

Here are a few suggestions that might help:

1. Create a Routine: Establish a regular homework and study time at home. This can help your son get into the habit of checking his assignments and preparing for tests. You could even set up a dedicated space for him to study, which can signal that it’s time to focus.
2. Use a Calendar: Consider using a wall calendar or a digital calendar where you can both write down important dates, such as test days and assignment due dates. Make it a fun activity by letting him decorate it or choose the colors for different subjects.
3. Encourage Communication: Have open conversations with your son about his school day. Ask him specific questions about what he learned and if there are any upcoming tests. This can help him feel more comfortable sharing information with you.
4. Talk to His Teacher: If you’re still concerned, consider reaching out to his teacher. They can provide insights into his progress and may even have suggestions for how to keep him on track.
5. Positive Reinforcement: Celebrate his successes, no matter how small. If he remembers to tell you about a test or completes his homework on time, acknowledge his efforts. This can motivate him to take more responsibility.

Remember, it’s a learning process for both you and your son. With patience and support, he will likely develop better habits over time. You’re doing a great job by being involved and caring about his education!

Take care,
Agony Aunt