Concerned Mother: Teacher sent multiple warning but son doesn’t care about homework

Dear Agony Aunt,

I’m writing to you with a heavy heart, as I am feeling quite lost with my son’s school performance. He is in primary school and has recently been getting warnings from his teacher about not completing and submitting his homework.

I’ve tried to follow up with him, but he seems completely indifferent. No matter how much I encourage him or explain the importance of his education, he just doesn’t seem to care. I’ve spoken to his teacher, who has also expressed her concern, but nothing seems to change.

I’m worried that if this continues, it will affect his future academic progress and self-esteem. I don’t want to be overly strict, but I also feel I need to instill some responsibility in him. I’m at a loss for what to do next.

Any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for your time.

Best regards,
A Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns about your son. It’s clear that you care deeply about his education and well-being, which is a wonderful foundation for any parent-child relationship.

Firstly, it’s important to recognize that many children go through phases where they may seem indifferent to schoolwork. This can be particularly true in primary school, where children are still learning how to manage their responsibilities. Here are a few suggestions that may help you navigate this situation:

1. Open a Dialogue: Instead of focusing solely on homework, try to have a casual conversation with your son about what he enjoys in school and what he finds challenging. Understanding his perspective may provide insight into why he’s disengaged.
2. Set a Routine: Establishing a consistent homework routine can help him understand that it’s a normal part of his day. This could include a specific time and a quiet space for him to work, which might make the task feel less daunting.
3. Incorporate Fun: Try to make homework more engaging. You could turn it into a game or reward him for completing his assignments. Positive reinforcement can be very effective at this age.
4. Communicate with His Teacher: Keep the lines of communication open with his teacher. Ask for specific strategies that have worked for other students, or if there are any resources she can recommend.
5. Be Patient: Change may not happen overnight. It’s essential to be patient and consistent in your approach. Celebrate small victories, and remember that this is a learning process for both you and your son.
6. Consider External Factors: Sometimes, a child’s lack of motivation can stem from factors outside of school, such as friendships, extracurricular activities, or even changes at home. Take some time to ensure that he feels secure and supported in all areas of his life.

You are doing your best as a parent, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Many parents face similar challenges, and it’s all part of the learning curve.

Take care, and I hope these suggestions help you and your son find a path that works for both of you.

Warm regards,

Agony Aunt