When a Mother’s Concern Meets a Daughter’s Resistance

Dear Agony Aunt,

I am a mother who is deeply worried about my daughter. She is currently studying in a junior college and I have been encouraging her to volunteer her time at the Meet-The-People sessions to help out our Member of Parliament (MP).

I believe that this experience would not only be beneficial for her personal growth but also a great way to contribute to our community. However, my daughter refuses to do so, claiming that she is too tired and that there’s no point in volunteering.

I am at a loss for what to do and how to convince her of the importance of giving back to society. I would greatly appreciate any advice you could offer.

Sincerely,
Concerned Mother

Dear Concerned Mother,

It’s understandable that you are concerned about your daughter’s reluctance to volunteer at the Meet-The-People sessions, but it’s important to approach this situation with empathy and understanding. It’s possible that your daughter is feeling overwhelmed with her studies and other commitments, which may be contributing to her fatigue and lack of motivation to volunteer.

I would suggest having an open and honest conversation with your daughter to understand her perspective. Ask her about her reasons for feeling tired and unmotivated, and listen to her without judgment. It’s important to validate her feelings and acknowledge the pressures she may be facing as a student.

Once you have a better understanding of her concerns, you can gently share your own reasons for wanting her to volunteer and the potential benefits it could bring. Emphasize the value of giving back to the community and the opportunity for personal growth and skill development that volunteering can provide.

It’s also important to respect your daughter’s autonomy and decision-making. Instead of pressuring her, offer your support and encouragement. Perhaps you could explore alternative ways for her to contribute to the community that align with her interests and schedule. By showing understanding and flexibility, you may be able to find a solution that satisfies both your concerns and your daughter’s well-being.

Ultimately, fostering open communication and mutual respect will be key in addressing this situation. I hope that with patience and understanding, you and your daughter can find a resolution that honors both of your perspectives.

Best wishes,
Agony Aunt